If you only dwell on it without taking action, it becomes an endless, dark pit with no grounding—pulling you down until it has completely swallowed you.

If you let it, however, you can turn it into a trophy, a wisdom, and a muscle that someone who has not gone through it does not have and cannot attain until they go through it themselves. It will reveal a wisdom that can carry you through the tightest passages in life, to only little discovered places.

Or you can just let it be—it's all up to you.
One choice will bring you a blessing.
The other will make you sick and can carry some people through misery into self-destruction.

So which one of those will you pick?